Is this you, Mistress?
Probably not, if someone slid into your DMs and is asking you to be their “slave” (I don’t use this word) using my pictures, you are one of many! Unfortunately there are many fake accounts out there using my image to catfish and scam folks, please read my Blog here about it here.
What are safe words, and how are they used?
I always use safe words and we will go over these prior to the session (the stoplight system: red, yellow, green). Safe words are used not only for sessions involving pain. Safe words are used to slow down or stop the intensity of the play. Sometimes one can be triggered or made uncomfortable by a word or a sensation or for seemingly no clear reason at all. This is when you should USE YOUR WORDS and communicate discomfort. Safe words can be used to moderate the scene without disrupting it or to completely stop the session and renegotiate boundaries.
Red = full stop. We will stop whatever we are doing and check in and take a break if needed. Sometimes we don’t know our boundaries until we bump right into them, if something is feeling very wrong and you are activated in some way, please say RED!
Yellow = slow down. Whatever I am doing I will dial it back a bit. This also gives me a clear idea of your threshold and limitations. Communication is key in learning what works for you, and makes a healthier and sustainable dynamic over time. Don’t push yourself beyond your limits to impress me, it does the opposite — it limits my trust that you are safe to play with and I will stop pushing you. As a domme — it is my responsibility to ensure you are safe, to moderate and pace the intensity, and track responsiveness (and I am good at this). As a submissive/bottom — it is your responsibility to communicate, because if I don’t know what is happening, we may cross a boundary I am unaware of, and this is a terrible feeling as top/domme.
Green = More please and thank you! This is a neutral way to communicate that you love what is happening and you want more from Mistress. You’re not topping from the bottom and directing the scene, you’re simply telling me you like where this is headed and I can do more and dial up the intensity.
What types of safety precautions do you take?
My safety and yours is my top priority. As a professional, I practice Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). We will discuss activities prior to all sessions and go over safewords. I am very selective in the people I choose to see, this is not only for my protection but for the protection of my clients and colleagues. I can promise that I will never reveal the identity of clients or what took place in a session to anyone, privacy is sacred. I am constantly honing my skills with the toys and various implements I use to ensure they are used safely and correctly. I have attended countless kink workshops, conferences, and classes to learn new skills and hone my practice. All play is in a discreet and clean space. My playspace is located in a discreet neighborhood where you need not worry about coming and going.
COVID-19 Safety:
I am up to date with my COVID vaccines. I will ask that you please disclose if you are feeling any kind of unwell prior to session and we can reschedule or take the appropriate measures to make a risk assessment (testing prior to meeting). If you’ve had a recent COVID exposure I will ask that you reach out to reschedule as well.
What are your boundaries and restrictions?
I do not offer nude body worship, I do not do full or partial nudity, no toilet training (some GS if I fancy), and there is no sex (of ANY kind) offered or implied. Asking me about these activities will let me know you've not read my site and will likely result in no response. I do not do race play or extreme body shaming regarding weight. I do not play with anyone inebriated or under the influence (if you arrive intoxicated I will refuse to commence the session). I practice Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) and I will need to know if you have any health conditions prior to meeting (most importantly: heart conditions, medications like blood thinners or insulin, a history of seizures, injuries, physical limitations, etc.).
How do I schedule and prepare for a session?
You will start by submitting the Contact Form. I will generally respond within 48 hours (unless traveling, and if you do not hear from me please ping me again and I will be sure to reply ASAP, often my replies end up in spam folders so be sure to check them and add me to your contacts) and then we will schedule a pre-session phone call to discuss your interests in more detail, go over safe words and boundaries (both yours and mine), and discuss the specifics of the session. You will prepare mentally and plan your day around your session, leaving adequate time to be prompt and on time and not overly rushed. You should prepare for the session as you would for a job interview or dinner date. I require that you be clean and not intoxicated. You should arrive at the playspace dressed in normal clothing for discretion, bringing with you any toys or attire you wish to have incorporated into our session. I prefer tribute to be nicely presented in an envelope or card.
What if I can't provide a reference?
I take references from other dommes or relevant providers who can provide a character reference. If you have anyone who might be willing to speak with Mistress on your behalf, I will approach them professionally and succinctly for a reference. I often give references for my previous and current clients and this is a common practice in our industry. If you cannot provide a reference and are new to this, please do contact me anyway and I will accept your inquiry and see new clients on a case-by-case basis. Inquiring for a session clearly and respectfully will get you everywhere with me.
Do you enjoy playing with newbies and novices?
I do love exploring and discovering with new submissives and BDSM novices. As long as you communicate and express your desires clearly, I am interested in working with you. I will ensure the process is safe and that you work to push yourself into new things, unearthing long-buried desires. This is always a pleasure for me.
What is a meet and greet?
I do meet and greets with new clients who are seeking to meet in a neutral space before booking a full session. These are generally about 1 hour and are compensated ($150). We will meet somewhere discreet for coffee or tea and it will be a casual interview for both of us. I do public sessions and have had dinner dates with regular or long-term clients, but these are always compensated, and do not expect otherwise.
Do you do long-term or overnight sessions?
I do longer or overnight sessions with regular or long-term clients. Do not ask for this unless we’ve sessioned before. These need to be planned significantly in advance.
Can I further tribute Mistress or bring a gift?
I do not expect gifts but of course, I do love receiving gifts from my devoted subjects. You can’t go wrong with a bottle of quality champagne or wine, tea (I love Earl Grey, chammomile, Tazo Passion, a nice oolong) flowers, or nice scented candles. You may visit my Wishlist for ideas of what I love. Other forms of tribute (to express devotion and appreciation) include my payment platforms which you will find at the bottom of my Sessions Page.
Can I be your personal submissive?
The answer in most cases is no. I take sessions, I train, and I enjoy developing long-term and consistent professional relationships, but I take personal submissives very seriously. If this is your first and main interest I am not likely the Mistress for you. I would only consider a personal sub who has been working with me long-term, and who has proven devoted, well-behaved, and useful. If we develop a strong dynamic we can discuss the possibility of moving into personal service and long-term training.
Do you do long-distance or phone domination?
I enjoy phone sessions a great deal and developing longer-term devotion and training from afar. We can work to create a program for you once you’ve proven consistency. I take phone sessions via NiteFlirt.