I offer coaching to individuals and couples in my fully equipped dungeon, Sub Rosa. Co-owned by the iconic Natasha Strange, Sub Rosa was designed by the two of us to be a kinky oasis, very much with the user in mind. It is fully equipped, approachable while offering some intense and complex bondage gear, and impeccably maintained and cleaned.
Couples Coaching
Coaching Rate: $250/hr
Coach & Play Package (3hrs): $500
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I have many years of experience coaching couples on bringing BDSM and power exchange dynamics into their relationship. I approach coaching from a trauma-informed lens and have completed a Certificate in Somatic Embodiment & Regulation Strategies. I believe that kink is a kind of catharsis for some of the deep cultural (and highly gendered) roles we find ourselves subjected to by socialization. It can be challenging to know where to start. So I offer a jumping off point, guided negotiation with your partner, hand-on demos, and experiential learning — we structure the coaching to your goals and specific interests.
In addition, my playspace Sub Rosa is available for rent privately by vetted couples — so people who are new and seeking guidance will often book coaching to gain insight on how to best use the space.
For this goal I recommend scheduling a coaching session in the playspace with me. I think it is best to start with 2hrs and we will discuss your goals and desires for coaching in terms of what is most important to you, ie: an intro to BDSM dynamics, discussion about desires, activities and ideas, incorporating kink into long term relationships, opening up your relationship, unlearning the assumptions and stigma about kink, hand-on skills coaching (impact, flogging, electro-play, sensation play, basic restraint and bondage, etc.), building confidence, stepping into dominance, learning to submit, scene planning, etc.
Often folks are wanting to rent Sub Rosa privately and are seeking an intro to the space and the equipment. For this I recommend the “Coach & Play” package which is 90 minutes of coaching (tailored to your specific questions) + 90 minutes of private play time in the dungeon (three hours of dungeon time total, generally the space rents for $100/hour). I offer this three hour dungeon experience for $500.
For any of these coaching options I will send a pre-session form for you both to fill out separately which will function as a jumping off point for our discussion. It is basically a guided negotiation which we will use to determine where both your interests align and overlap. This process is fundamental in building new insights and inspiration for couples who are starting out, or shifting the dynamics of the relationship.
If coaching doesn’t feel right at this time I recommend starting with one of our many classes at Sub Rosa or our next FemDom Bootcamp (these happen monthly and are geared to femmes).
Coaching vs. Fantasy Play Sessions
If you and your partner are seeking more active play and a fantasy scene with a dominatrix, you are probably seeking a session, where I am dressed in fetishwear or lingerie and we are doing more activities and hands-on play, with roles and dynamics pre-established. With coaching I do not present this way, and the focus is education and demo rather than heavy play. Rates are outlined on my sessions page.
How to Schedule
To book my time and plan a coaching session (or a pro-domination session!) you'll need to give me a sense of your desires and experience level (for both you and your partner) on my Contact Form. I can direct our coaching to focus on specific practice as well, just let me know your needs.
I often do coaching and group teaching with Natasha Strange (pictured above), if private coaching is not right for you at this time I recommend one our many classes, we have new offerings every month.
Mentorship
I am often asked if I do mentorship by folks seeking to enter the world of professional domination; I do this at my coaching rate of $200/hour. I highly recommend beginning by taking one of the many introductory classes we teach at Sub Rosa. I have, in the past, taken on mentees without hourly compensation but these are folks who have put the time in, attended my events and classes, or volunteered support in other ways, and I vet them carefully. I take mentorship seriously and don’t often have the capacity for it, so I take on mentees very sparingly at this time.
Dominatrix Life Coaching • Long-Term Training
Some of my submissives have entered into ongoing monthly agreements/contracts where we set goals and I hold them accountable to these goals. I generally have them log daily in a spreadsheet or app and check in weekly, as well as having at least 2 hours of either in-person or remote session time per month, to receive their rewards/punishments based on their performance and improvement.
Coaching/training starts at $800/month. I will need trust and consistency to begin training and I take on limited trainees of this nature, and these programs are customized to each dynamic. Read client responses and reflections from their sessions/coaching/training on my Praise Page.
Payment Options
I do require deposits to reserve my time and the playspace. I generally prefer the balance in cash at the time of the session, but if you need to use one of these other payment processors, just let me know prior to doing so.
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