(Above) Mistress Viola with Alexis (Queen of the Velvet Rope!), Lo Satanica, Fenris, and cabana toys. This was at an event called Fempire.

Classes and Events

My playspace and dungeon Sub Rosa PDX hosts regular classes and events. Our classes are always a good opportunity to meet me and other like-minded folks and get an accessible introduction to the world of kink and BDSM. We encourage those at any stage of exploration as well as solo attendees and couples. Our bootcamps are geared toward femmes seeking confidence and hands-on skills (read the descriptions carefully), but all other classes are open to anyone. Most of these events I will be there, but some of these classes are taught primarily by my business partner Natasha Strange. See our upcoming events below or on our website.

50 Shades of STFU

Fourth Thursdays • 8pm • Sanctuary Club • $20

50 Shades of STFU is every fourth Thursday. Hosted by Mistress Viola herself. 50 Shades of STFU is a kinky play party, social event, and performance venue for fem tops and the individuals who serve and worship them. We have been home at Sanctuary Club downtown since 2017.

We aim to create an inclusive space for LGBTQ, pansexual, queer, or straight subs and their fem tops. Tastings run from 8:30 to 9:30 when we break for a performance moment and then there's another tastings block from 10-11. Doors at 8pm and spots for tastings do fill quickly; they are first come first serve. Performers and tasters vary by event. There is also usually a theme for each month. More info can be found at PDXSanctuary.com and on Fetlife by following my account (@xoViola) and viewing my upcoming events.

If you’re a cis male dom this is really not the event for you. If you wanna switch it up and explore your subby side you are welcome to come. Check your entitlement at the door & see dress code.

BIPOC folks please reach out to 50ShadesofSTFU@gmail.com for a spot on the guestlist for free entry (all you need to do is ask). If you are experiencing financial hardship or if cost is a barrier please reach out for a spot as well. Otherwise, tix can be purchased at door for $20 all night! If you have feedback for us about this event (either for follow-up or anonymous feedback) you can submit this on the form linked here.

*Playspaces, St. Andrews cross, semi-privat e areas, spanking benches, and hard points available.

Sanctuary is 21+, LGBTQ+, ADA accessible (there is an elevator), anti-racism, and celebrates diversity. Enter on 9th Ave.

DRESS CODE:

No effort, no entry!

FemDom/femme attendees can dress to impress as they wish (fetish wear encouraged). Male/submissive attendees are required to dress to express their interest in femdom, even in some small way, examples include:

• Fetish wear, collars/leash, cuffs, high heels, fetish shoes, hoods, leather, PVC

• Crossdressed, glamour, make-up, lingerie

• Uniforms*, costumes, puppy or animal costumes

• Bright silly clothing, rainbows, sweet jammies, cute underpants, bow ties, bunny ears, etc. 

Male attendees: May not wear plain street clothes, jeans, or even a nice suit. If you have not made an effort to abide by the dress code, you may not be allowed entry. First-timers who do not own fetishwear may wear:

• Something costumey or silly.

• Can be shirtless or take their pants off to show off their underwear.

*Racist/fascist symbols or uniforms are not allowed in the club.

Covid Safety for STFU:
We encourage our community to be up to date with their vaccines to protect all of us. Please take this into consideration when making your personal risk assessments. Please, please, stay home if you are feeling under the weather in any way, scratchy throat, sniffles, or fever. We encourage you to test before and after all large events. Masks are not required.

Safety Downtown:
Please support each other in arriving and leaving the club, if you need a buddy to attend with reach out in the Femdom Forum here: https://fetlife.com/groups/167011

PARTY RULES:

Cell phones may only be used outside or in the outer hallway. NO PHONES OUT IN CLUB. If we see you taking photos or filming you will be asked to leave immediately. The only exception is at the photobooth. Please ensure only consenting people are in any photo taken at the photobooth.

• No audio or video recording devices are allowed.

• No drugs or outside alcohol allowed. 

• CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT. Do not touch another person or their property without their explicit permission. No means no. Do not get pushy or aggressive. This behavior will be grounds for being asked to leave the club. Play is encouraged but NEVER expected.

• Do not interrupt scenes!

• Do not get too close to play scenes or ask to be involved.

• Always negotiate boundaries before playing.

• Risk-aware and 100% consensual play only. 

• Dungeon Monitors (DMs) will be present and monitoring the space to the best of their abilities, be aware: this space gets crowded. Attendees will respect the Dungeon Monitors, hosts, security, and Sanctuary staff and will adhere to the rules and instructions.

• Aggressive cruising will not be tolerated. Be aware of the space and energy you are taking when you hover or get near a play scene.

• No blood play, urine play, hot wax, fire, vomit, scat, knife play, guns, race play, or breath play. The DMs will end scenes including these actions.

• Limit your play scenes to 45 mins to allow time for others to use the play areas, suspension points and dungeon furniture as there are limited areas.

• Genitals must be covered unless part of an active play scene. This goes all for all attendees. Sheer stuff is ok just make sure the goodies are covered in some way.

• Clean furniture and play equipment before and after scenes. Cleaning supplies are provided by the club.

• Do not move play furniture without discussing with DMs first.

• If you're planning to embark on an intense or edgy scene please let a DM know prior.

• If you feel someone is misbehaving, being aggressive, or making you or someone else feel uncomfortable, please let the DMs or hosts or club staff know ASAP and we will do what we can to inform the individual or have them removed.

• Use of the word “safeword” is a call for assistance. DMs and/or other experienced players will intervene and come to your aid when they hear it. If a DM hears the word "red" they might intervene if they feel it is necessary.